We often deny our control over life until personal change forces us to face it. In How We Change (And Ten Reasons Why We Don’t) (2020,) psychologist Ross Ellenhorn explains how change challenges us to accept responsibility and the isolation of growth. Change demands full accountability, and ultimately, you must move forward alone.

That’s how life works for most of us most of the time: we authentically take control of our existence only sparingly, and mainly pretend we’re not in control when we actually are. All the theatrics stop, however, when we head twowaard personal change.

Change always makes you face your aloneness and accountability. That’s an unavoidable fact about change: on the road from where you are to where you want to be—no one else—putting one foot in front of the other.