On June 16, 1991, civic leader and former United States Secretary of Health and Human Services John W. Gardner gave a commencement address to the Stanford Alumni Association 61 years after he graduated from that college:

You come to understand that most people are neither for you nor against you, they are thinking about themselves. You learn that no matter how hard you try to please, some people in this world are not going to love you, a lesson that is at first troubling and then really quite relaxing.